Once out of college, life is hard. People realize that it’s no longer colorful, unlike the student days. It is sometimes too hard to take in when hit with the harsh realities of life. What you expected life to be while you were stepping into the real world, is not what you get. Being naive only makes this blow feel even harder, thus leading to stress, anxiety and unnecessary fears. Welcome to Quarter Life Crisis!
You may have had a blast making wonderful memories during the most happy days of your life. But now, you realized you had so much fun that you hardly payed attention to prepare yourself for the future. You watched all your friends leave to pursue their dreams of higher education or a job at a multinational company, while you are still unemployed. With increasing competition, you are unsure if your skills and capabilities are of any good. You are worried and stressed about your future.
What if you had a job at one of the nation’s best firms? Having a job at your dream company was something you would not have asked for anything more! But whenever you see your friends abroad post pictures with their BMW s or about vacations in Hawaii, you feel like shit! Your inner conscience does no good by sounding, “What the hell am I doing here in this cubicle, while that fellow who was no good at college is going places?” The same job that you prayed for to get into, no longer appears worthy enough!
Okay, now you are living abroad! Living the fancy life that your friends dream of. All they know about you is through the photos you post on Facebook or your selfies on Instagram. You wonder, if they even care for you beyond your posts. While they envy your foreign lifestyle, you keep working your ass of to meet the ends and retain grades, so that you don’t get kicked out of the country. “What’s gonna happen if I fail? Will I ever get a job if I go back, with that competition? May be I should have stayed back home with a job like my friends. At least they are close to their families and enjoy home food”, a thought that never stops echoing. Meanwhile, your ex and all your friends are either getting engaged or married. Few of them start having babies. A bunch of them are celebrating their anniversaries or baby’s first birthdays. And you my friend, are still struggling for a degree and survival in a foreign land. This increases the existing stress levels adding to a feeling of loneliness.
You may not necessarily fall under the above bracket. You may have a vision, an idea that could change the world or at least make lives easier. You quit your fat paying job to pursue this vision of yours. You have a good team, clear ambition but lack financial help. Your failed trials of getting sponsors or financial support from all valid sources is delaying this whole vision thing. Your parents feel you are running behind the impossible when it’s time for settlement. Continuous failures with no glimpse of success makes your supporting girlfriend apprehensive. “What if this doesn’t work at all? It will be too late for everything”, she keeps reminding. You can neither concentrate on your vision nor go back to your good old job. What if you lose your girlfriend in the process of chasing your dream? Too many questions with no answers. All you do is panic!
Quarter life crisis is an outcome of intense stress levels and mental disturbances caused mostly by unsatisfied career, relationships or a feeling of failure during the age of mid 20s. The ever increasing sharing, tweeting, posting phenomena going around, only adds to make this crisis even worse! Internet was meant to connect people for whatever reasons. But most of them stay connected not to keep in touch, but to be aware of what is going on with others lives! Too much awareness leads to inspecting one’s own life while comparing it with others. Comparison leads to dissatisfaction, a feeling of failure, anxiety thus adding stress. Sometimes it gets so worse that it leads to depression and prolonged sadness, which are born out of no big misery. People in this age bracket fail to acknowledge the fact that each and everyone is going through the same sick, stressed life for reasons unknown. The posts on social networking spaces are not the reflections of their true lives.
Each one is fighting through this crisis so bad, that they end up pretending as though everything is alright. Sometimes knowing you are not the only one, helps. After all, this is just a phase! Time often comes to the rescue and you will get used to this reality by the time you hit 30!