“Did you look at her size? Wonder what she eats!”
“He hardly talks. He is so boring!”
“They are a bunch of party poopers. Better not invite them!”
“He is one of those, ‘know it all’ types.”
“She’s been divorced twice. How is she ready for another marriage?!”
Judging is a part of natural instincts for homo sapiens. It comes so naturally and effortlessly to humans, that they don’t even realize it to be an area of concern. Because it’s so easy. All they need to do is just rub their so-called morals and perspectives over other’s principles that are contrary. And if they don’t like it, they can atleast judge it!
It takes immense maturity and open mindedness to not judge someone based on what is seen, perceived or felt. The vibes received from a person, may not actually signify their personality and existence. Each one has a remarkable story of survival in this sapient, civilized jungle. Not everyone has the strength to sustain, hence the pretense.
Thinking and empathizing by steping into other’s shoes is considered a pain. Oh, wait, do we even ‘consider’ stepping into other’s shoes? May be not always. Being judgemental can only limit one’s capability of self growth and improvement. Assuming what we see or apprehend to be always right can be foolishness in disguise.
Someone assumed to be boring, is actually a great entertainer among people he/she is comfortable with. A girl’s excessive weight may be because of her suffering from hormonal imbalance and not over eating. A person considered to be ‘know it all’, may only find happiness in sharing their knowledge, with no intention of showing off as they are presumed to be. People who are labeled as party poopers, may only wish to overcome their social awkwardness. A woman divorced twice for reasons unknown, may actually have had a hard time making a decision of getting re married.
When every individual is trying their best to conceal their scars, it only needs a tiny bit of consideration to embrace each other’s growth.
Never judge a book by it’s cover!
Aura with Writing 
YES! Superb post. If we are going to judge we should always try and do it from a kind heart – if that makes sense. check out where I have got to on my challenge if you wish @Daisy from
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Yes, kindness is very much needed! Thanks a lot for reading! I am checking your informative animal posts right away! 🙂
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Lovely post, and thought-provoking too. 🙂
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Thank you so much for reading and taking time to comment! It means so much to me! 😊
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You’re welcome. Always a pleasure to read your posts. 🙂
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Thank you! 😊
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OMG….you are now picking up psychic vibes because this very topic is in a scene in my book. Standing next to a depressed person and not knowing it. The public mask that hides the insides. Yet external perceptions see someone alienated, standoffish, impregnable or quiet. Yet inside the untold story tells the truth about the lie.
The adage never judge a book by its cover rings true….especially now that is also such a large part of marketing…blah percent of people won’t even look if they don’t like the cover…in our society this is a metaphor for how people judge with their eyes and preconceptioned stereotyping.
Judging needs data…get to know them first before tagging anyone as an ass….I think that underpins some of my character psychologies too.
Once again great job… How’s the endurance holding up ?? 😊
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Wow! What a coincidence! And frankly I like your version better! 😄 I loved the line judging needs data! Exactly! Judging needs time too. Judging leads to stereotypes or may be vice versa. Thank you for your wonderful insights! You are such an inspiration in writing😄
I’m finding it hard, as I get time to ponder and write only at the end of the day. That’s one reason, I’m unable to comment on a regular basis. Really testing my endurance 😁 But that’s the purpose of this challenge, right?! But I like the way this challenge is making me step out of my comfort zone. You would have thoroughly enjoyed it, as you can easily and wonderfully write about anything and everything! 😄
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My version was slim by comparison and concise purely because of the coincidence…or is that serendipity? Am I inspirational or just type so much jibber jabber law of averages says somewhere there will be a word that works !!! I bet the challenge is beginning to work its magic on you…casting spells to prevent completion…testing resolve…you will fail my precious…no, that’s LOTR..sorry… You won’t fail because if you do then I will challenge you to do it with me next year…and if you do complete it…I’ll challenge you anyway 😁
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Hehe, that’s so nice of you!! Yes, definitely next year! You will be my guest writer for the challenge 😁 I’ll give you the choice of alphabet,lol. I am seeing the benefits of this challenge, with respect to the ability to write everyday. Same time, it’s time consuming.
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Ooh can you have guest writers then?? Buddy challenge but choice of alphabet?? Do we gave more than one 🤔 Or…no….my linguistic skills are not good….I’ve even got a Spanish friend translating comments on my Facebook author page…no idea why it popular in Spain though…not quite worked that out yet 🤔 I agree with you though…writing is a discipline…at the moment my time management is pants, for want of a better word !!!
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Haha! You could be a guest writer next year for the challenge. You could write on any topic for an alphabet of your choice. I’m pretty sure that would be a highlight on my blog, during the challenge next year! 😇 May be this challenge will help you with your time management skills too!
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That deal must work both ways then 😇 Gosh…next year…I can’t plan next week never mind a whole year !!! I reckon you’re right though. These sorts of exercises help force you to do things rather than just think about it. Idle mind type of thing to use your post 😁
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Haha thank you for recollecting 😄
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Great post…thoughtful, insightful, compassionate, and very well written 🙂
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Thank you so much Truly!! Thank you for stopping by and reading! 😊
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Great points here. As I get older, I find myself a lot less judgemental.
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I agree! Since most of us understand how reality works with age, we tend to get less judgemental. Thank you very much for stoping by and reading! 😊
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